October 29, 2009
Gotta love George Michael for that fancy little tidbit of wisdom!
So, I headed over to Weddingbee this morning for my first of a few visits each day (okay, who am I kidding? By “a few” I obviously mean a kajillion) and stumbled across Miss Pretzel’s post about how she met Mr. Pretzel, and that it was their shared faith that really brought them together in the beginning. It made me think about The Guy and me and the fact that we also share a faith. Sounds simple, right? It’s not.
The Guy and I are both Catholic. We were both raised in the Church. In fact, The Guy even went to a Catholic elementary school. And The Guy’s mum is very involved in the Church to this day*. Neither of us feels a connection to the Church though. For him, it’s just because. For me, it’s due to personal** reasons and beliefs.
We are both believers. I pray regularly. I have faith. But my desire to get married in a different church has been made clear to The Guy from day one. So, the same day we found our reception venue, we went church-searching as well. We ended up at the United church in my hometown, and I immediately knew it was the place.
We’ve attended a couple other weddings in the United church, and I’ve done a good amount of research into United beliefs and they very much align with our own. This is a place where I feel comfortable making the most important vows of my life. This is a place that I feel is inclusive and open-minded enough to be a good representation of us. This is the right place.
We meet with the Minister next Sunday after attending a church service. I’m really looking forward to the meeting and to learning even more about the United church at the service.
To me, the ceremony is the most important part of the day, so finding a church that would let us be us was high on my list of priorities, and I think I can now confidently check it off my to do list!
*Because of The Guy’s mum’s involvement in the Catholic Church, I was very, very concerned about my strong desire to not get married in the Church. She’s been great about it. She still occasionally asks why we made that decision, but overall she’s very supportive and I’m truly lucky to be marrying into such a wonderful family!
**I really want to stress that this is entirely personal. I totally respect people of any and all faiths and my beliefs/feelings are no in way meant to reflect my feelings towards others. This is just about my personal experience with religion.
October 27, 2009
…is pretty much what I’ve been doing for the last 24 hours since I sent the deposit over to my wonderful, talented photographer: Krista Jefferson at edison photography. You HAVE to check out her blog, but only if you have time to spare, because it will suck you in and you won’t be able to look away!
Yes, I’m one of those brides who have secretly been researching for a couple years now. Looking back in my delicious bookmarks, I actually first tagged Krista’s site in August of 2007! And the note attached to it says, “AMAZING photographer, want her for my wedding!” So, you can imagine how excited I was when I got her.
I had tagged a few other photographers’ work as well, and after we got engaged I went back to all their sites and carefully compared, contrasted and perused their work. But I kept coming back to Krista*. There’s something about the way she captures moments and emotions that gets me. I find myself looking at weddings she’s shot and tearing up…and I don’t even know the people in the photos!
As they say, a picture’s worth a thousand words, so Krista’s work will do a better job of summing up her talent than I ever could. Check out these examples (all photo credits to Krista Jefferson, edison photography):
*It also helped that we emailed back and forth about the wonderfulness of Snuggies and Glee — what’s not to like?!
October 26, 2009
For the last, oh, long time, when I’ve thought about my wedding I’ve thought “intimate,” “not too big,” “just our closest friends and family members,” “no more than 125 people.” Right. Not so much.
So here’s the deal: I have four parents. Most people have two. Not this lucky ducky! Yes, four parents, and with four parents come four families. Did I mention that one of those four families includes six step-siblings, all of whom have partners and kids? The Guy is one of four children and all his three sisters have spouses and kids as well. You see where this is going, right? 125 just wasn’t going to cut it. Ask me right now where our guest list currently stands. Go ahead, ask. One hundred and ninety-two. 192! GAH! This is truly what we get when we invite only our closest family members and friends. Nothing superfluous.
So, venue hunting was limited by that.
Venue hunting was also limited by the fact that we’re picky. We like nice things. We like things that are reflective of us. We do not like banquet halls. They just aren’t what we had in mind. Way to have a million criteria, huh?
Inn on the Twenty has a very pretty dining space that overlooks beautiful trees, which would have been perfect for our fall wedding:
The ceremony area in the vineyard looks STUNNING, and so very us:
So, you can imagine how we felt when we discovered that the reception space holds a maximum of 140 guest. Cross that one off the list (with a sigh).
We searched long and hard. I called a bunch of other vineyards in wine country, and no luck. Most other places I called (that I was only lukewarm on to begin with) were already booked.
We visited two other venues, but I already knew which one I wanted.
Venue 1: Copetown Woods Golf and Country Club
It was very nice, but it just wasn’t us. It had a bit of a country aesthetic, whereas we’re more modern/elegant. It also had the dance floor in the same room as the meal, which would have required some tables to be placed on the dance floor and then moved later in the evening, and that was something that we’d wanted to avoid.
Venue 2: Hamilton Golf and Country Club
HGCC is the club at which my stepdad has been a member for as long as I can remember. We’ve been going there for family dinners my whole life. My Matron of Honour and I, along with our mums, attended countless Christmas parties there when we were kids and we have tons of photos of us standing in front of the massive Christmas tree they place inside the Great Hall every holiday season. All that to say, this place is special to me and full of memories. It also just underwent a huge renovation, so is a perfect mix of modern and elegant — exactly the look we were hoping for. So, it’s booked!
Our dinner will be held in the dining area, and there’s a separate room (the Great Hall) for cocktails and, later on in the evening, dancing and the dessert table. We couldn’t be happier with our choice and can’t wait to attend the tasting!
Just to give you an idea of the room in which our dinner will be held:
The space is on the second floor, so has a view from above. There are three walls of floor to ceiling windows — should make for spectacular scenery for our October wedding!
October 14, 2009
Like any newly engaged girl — especially one who’s been secretly planning for the last, oh, three years or so — a few days after our engagement I went to our local bookstore to purchase those types of magazines at which I’d stared longingly for so long. Now, as I said, I’ve been planning for awhile (and by planning I mean voraciously browsing wedding blogs and websites, bookmarking photos and invitation sites, but rarely actually committing to anything in particular in my mind). So, it’s not like I’m completely anti-wedding or anti-establishment, or any of those uber-trendy stances that so many of my contemporaries are taking. But, I have to say, the wedding magazines…gah! Have you read them? They might as well be candy-coated and written in bubble font with every ‘i’ dotted with a heart: they a little over-the-top, no?
One actually suggesting renting, yes, RENTING lovebirds to place in a birdcage on your guestbook table as a representation of your partnership (I am cringing just writing this). And the thing is, people DO these things! I’ve seen them! People rent doves to release and purchase butterflies and, allegedly, rent lovebirds.
All this to say, that I am not one of those brides (although my coworker did offer to let me borrow her hamster Wally, she said she’d put a top hat on him for my special day).
There won’t be any doves, or lovebirds, or butterflies.
We’re a modern couple with sophisticated taste. We like clean lines, modern takes on traditional and bending the rules — just a little.
I hope that this blog will provide a space to plan, brainstorm and share ideas as we plan for our coming nuptials in the fall of 2010. If you’re looking for doves though, look elsewhere.